My mum died last week, and since then I've decided if i have a baby girl i want to call her Ellsey because its an anagram of Lesley (my mum) I told my cousin this who is pregnant with a girl and now she wants to use it for her daughter, i really want this name how can i get her to change her mind?
How can i get my cousin to chang her mind about baby names?
I'm sorry for your loss.
Thats a pretty complicated situation it wasnt nice of her to decide to use the name after you already told her you were planning on using it for when you have a child, however its her choice to use whatever name she'd like and it's kinda hard to talk someone into changing a name they are set on. On the contrary, There isnt anything wrong with you using the same name for your child..Just think of it as more in the memory of your mother..I'm sure she would love to have both named after her.
Reply:You can't if she's already made up her mind and is strong willed. I'm sure we all find it revolting, but all you can do is ask her to respect your wishes (bringing up that your mother would have asked her to give it up as well could work) and then use it for yourself, anyways. If there is a problem later, that's your cousin's fault, right?
Reply:I'd let your cousin have it, and call your baby Lesley instead (maybe as a middle name), to honour your mum properly. Mashing the letters of her name up to make something that isn't even a name isn't much of a memorial.
Reply:That is just evil! How inconsiderate of your feelings in a hard time. Confront her, tell her what the name meens to you, and how important it is. Suggest other names. If she still insists on using the name, tell her it hurts your feelings, or maybe ask her to use it as a middle name. Good luck. And so sorry about your loss.
Reply:That is so disrespectfull of her! You should tell her that sinse you thought of the name you are still going to use it, even if she does. then they will have the same name, let her know that she hurt your feeling by doing this, she is you mother, not her's!!!!!
Reply:Imagine if we all had our " own " name and nobody else could use it ?
Get over it and name your child as you please !
Take it as an honor to your mom.
My close friends asked me to give their child the middle name and it was an honor for me to do so.
Reply:You know cuz, she was my mum, i picked it out, would you mind? I would like to use it to honor my mother. Leslie is also a nice name...
Reply:sorry about your loss just explain to her that at the end of the day its your mums name and this is how you want to honour and remember her hopefully she will understand good luck i hope it all works out ok for you x
Reply:Tell her it is also the name of a cow (though it was spelled Elsie) used in advertising dairy products.
Reply:if that is what she really wants then she is not going to change her mind. there is nothing wrong with nameing ur baby the same.
Reply:It is your mom tell her to find a different name!!!
Reply:just tell her, it was your mom, and your mom means so much to you, and you want to use the name
Reply:Have you asked her if she'd consider using it as a middle name and picking a different 1st name so you would still be able to use it if you were to have a girl? Otherwise I don't know how you'd change her mind unless the father doesn't like it or she hears a new name she likes better,just keep giving her name suggestions and see what happens!
Otherwise you could always use the name as a middle for your daughter (if you have one) and at least there will be a baby named after her either way,right. Another idea would be for you to go with Lesley and they can just be cousins with similar names. I have two cousins both with the name Alex and I also have two with the name David. The family will think it's nice anyway and unless you're planning on getting pregnant right away,chances are that they would be far enough apart in age as not to confuse everyone.
That's too bad that she did that to you though! Hope it all turns out in the end and she ends up with a boy instead lol
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